Becoming Mom

I still remember the moment when we decided it was time to have a baby.

We hadn't been married very long. And believe it or not, I wanted to wait. I knew that once a baby came it would be harder to finish college.

But when that answer came, I knew.

And things worked out.

Things have a way of doing that. Working out.

By the time I graduated from college, Christopher was one year old, and Caleb was a tiny vomit-inducing peanut.

But I did it. I finished.

It was never an option not to finish. I always wanted to. And we even promised my parents when we got engaged that I would graduate.

Now what?

I was offered a long term sub job at the school where I student taught.

I turned it down.

It was time to be Mom.

I learned a lot those first few years as a stay at home Mom.

I learned that sleeping in past 7:00 am is purely heavenly. And that the days can get pretty long when you only have two or three little boys for company.

Thank goodness for lunchtime phone calls from Brant.

I've been Mom for 12 1/2 years now. Sometimes I wonder how I ever survived those first few years at home. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever survive the current year at home.

And I still rely on those lunchtime phone calls from Brant to help me make it through the day.

Those 3 little boys have grown. Now they go to school, feed their chickens, wrestle and beg for a dog. Some things never change.

Behind them followed 3 girls and another boy. I'm still that stay at home Mom that I started as. But am I?

It wouldn't be fair if the kids were allowed to grow and change while I stayed the same.

I've grown. I've learned. So much.

So much.

Looking back at the hard days. The happy days. The crying fits (both mine and the kids'). Those were the things that made me.

They helped me become the Mom I am now.

The Mom I'm still working on becoming.

Still working.

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