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Being Mom right now

Hi friends. Welcome to my blog. 

 I'm a Mom to seven kids, ages 17 months to 12 years. 


I'm an avid dreamer who wishes I can do everything. Write a book. Teacher kindergarten. Speak at parenting conventions. Be a college Professor. All while staying home and being the Mom I know I can be. 

 But right now, I'm focusing on the Mom part. 

 Do you remember reading Anne of Green Gables when you were young? Do you remember how Anne always had something to say about everything? She's got one for my situation too. 

                    “Oh, it's delightful to have ambitions. I'm so glad I have such a lot. And there never seems to be any end to them — that's the best of it. Just as soon as you attain to one ambition you see another one glittering higher up still." (Montgomery)

 That's me. I have high hopes to accomplish every single one of my ambitions too. 

 But right now, I'm where I need to be. 

 Did you know that research shows that children who are in full-time childcare vs. home with their primary caregiver behave worse in school up through 6th grade? 

 Did you know that a Mother's work hours are closely associated with lower graders, poor work habits and less ego resistance?

 Did you know that I've always wanted to be a Mom?

 The world tells me otherwise, but I still feel strongly that home is the best place for me. 

 Besides, if I were busy teaching your kids in kindergarten, who would take the time to patiently potty train my 3-year-old? How would I have time to sit and snuggle my 17 month old when she wakes up in the morning? And who would know that my 5-year-old loves working together on phonics workbooks in the afternoon?

 Maybe somebody would figure those things out. And maybe I could make it work. 

 But I think something would be lost. 

 I think in the process of fulfilling a dream, a more important dream would be forfeited. 

 There will be time enough for dreams when my babies grow up.  Right now, I'm where I need to be. 

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  1. Mellissa February 18, 2020 at 2:16 PM

    And being a mom is the best!

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    1. Tina CrowtherFebruary 18, 2020 at 8:15 PM

      Yes it is. I've been struggling lately. Wanting to do something else. I feel like I've been home for more than a decade! Haha! Because I have! But deep down, I know that I don't really want to do anything else. Not yet anyway... Just need to refigure things out. ❤️

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